ADVICE to Cess

Dear Ces,

Greetings of love and peace to you, too!

Thank you for your honest letter. So much pain, frustration and disappointment speak from your lines. I will not judge your boyfriend. But what he has done to you is very wrong, and I doubt whether he can pursue his dream. For he has abused you, knowing very well that he is committing a very grave sin.

You question God why He let this happen. Please, don't blame God for it. You know very well that pre-marital sex is a mortal sin. And having done it "countless times," you have offended God countless of times. For this, you have only yourself to blame.

What you need now is to make a good and honest confession to a priest who can help you to leave the past behind and start a new future. Even with so many sins committed, God is always ready to forgive those who are really sorry and turn away from sin.

It is understandable that you do not trust men anymore. In a way, this will make you more careful and may help you not to fall easily into the same trap again. However, I hope that your conversations with a trusted priest will help you regain confidence in man little by little. I am sure that the right partner will come one day, a partner who will love you in spite of your past. "Love in spite of" - that's real love. Pray for it and wait until this person will be given to you.

May God bless you!

Did you know that FR. RUDY HORST, SVD, was born in Cologne, Germany, the "Rome of the North?" Also, he was once an altar boy in the Poor Clare Sisters Monastery near their town.

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